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Don't React — Respond

"Do you have the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear?"
Lao Tzu
How many times a day do your children say or do something that bothers you — words or actions you know are wrong or simply irritating? And how often do you quickly correct or scold?

Emotional Brain Vs. Logical Brain

We have two brains — one that can get us into trouble, and one that can get us out.

Why We Blame

Is there any couple alive that doesn't sometimes indulge in the blame game — finding fault in one another when something goes wrong?

Behind the Anger

What parent hasn't had the experience of a son or daughter — 2 or 3 years old — running toward the street? In an instant, many of us angrily shout at the youngster to get back onto the curb.

Your Start-Up

When you fly, do you pay close attention to the aircraft's take-off? Maybe not. But don't neglect your take-off — when approaching your partner with a grievance or complaint.

Marriage researcher John Gottman calls it your start-up.