We have two brains — one that can get us into trouble, and one that can get us out.
Is there any couple alive that doesn't sometimes indulge in the blame game — finding fault in one another when something goes wrong?
What parent hasn't had the experience of a son or daughter — 2 or 3 years old — running toward the street? In an instant, many of us angrily shout at the youngster to get back onto the curb.
When you fly, do you pay close attention to the aircraft's take-off? Maybe not. But don't neglect your take-off — when approaching your partner with a grievance or complaint.
Marriage researcher John Gottman calls it your start-up.
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