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For some folks, the idea of talking about sex with their therapist is unthinkable. It makes us vulnerable and we swim in a soup of negative messages about sex: “it’s dirty,” “it’s wrong,” “we don’t talk about that,” and my personal favorite, “good girls don’t do that.” We’re self-conscious at best, and shameful at worst. The idea of even broaching the possibility of not being good at sex is beyond the pale, as though somehow people magically mature into sexual prowess. So we…

It seems no matter where I turn, I hear variations of the term “narcissist” or “narcissism”.  It is becoming an endemic part of society’s lexicon when describing less than desirable behaviors and attitudes of another person.

"But what is grief, if not love persevering?" -Quote from the TV series WandaVision, Episode 8: "Previously On," Marvel Studios  

I’m seated on a flight soaring tens of thousands of feet above the ground. The plane abruptly falls several feet and then bounces back up. Suddenly it feels like my heart is racing at the same speed as the aircraft. My hands grip my seat and I feel an uncomfortable sensation rising in my throat.  My mind declares, “I can’t handle this.”

A healthy relationship with yourself is the foundation for all other relationships. When you don’t have a positive relationship with yourself, other relationships can suffer. But what does a loving relationship with yourself look like? Here are three important ways to foster love for yourself.  

April is Stress Awareness Month and a good time to check in on the stressors in your life and how you’re coping with them. Stress is a natural, adaptive, and built-in response that is intended to help us. The Mayo Clinic describes the natural stress response as the following upon encountering a threat:

I was fortunate to have been interviewed by Rolling Stone for an article about a TV show called “Harlem”, which is being called the “Black Women’s ‘Sex in the City’. The show discusses the challenges of dating and finding love. The author of the article and I spoke for about an hour. Unfortunately, due to length of the article, much of our conversation had to be cut.

The transition from one year to the next often invites reflection on the last year as a whole. It can be an opportunity to think about what habits of mind, feeling and behavior we might want to leave behind, and which habits we might want to foster and cultivate for a better future. In my work as a couple’s therapist, I specialize in helping my clients foster relational health.